tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2047945885380439301.post3442938285117949728..comments2023-05-15T07:05:45.060-04:00Comments on The Daily Epidural: That fine parenting line...do you cross it?Anne and Carriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14775912208343401432noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2047945885380439301.post-61795353452654820712010-05-20T09:28:09.499-04:002010-05-20T09:28:09.499-04:00wow...sounds like fun ;o)
I did cringe a little bi...wow...sounds like fun ;o)<br />I did cringe a little bit about the Cars, though. My happy little toddler is a little possessive about his cars! I do encourage him to share, though, and if he lodged a car in someone's pigtail, I promise I would intervene.<br />I don't think McQueen and Mater would appreciate demon type behavior, do you?Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08389275607275386774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2047945885380439301.post-51733727190876143302010-05-20T04:07:01.019-04:002010-05-20T04:07:01.019-04:00I totally understand what you are talking about. I...I totally understand what you are talking about. I take my son to an indoor play area designed for kids under 4 feet tall. However parents let their 12 year old run wild in this play area and they tend to mow over the little guys. However, I do have issues when mom's are not watching there little tikes at this play area. Sometimes they are rude and hit or push my son who is not yet two. He does not have any siblings so he is not used to being pushed around and he has gotten so timid at that play area he will climb down the slide stairs and let others go ahead of him and will only go up the slide when no one else is nearby. I have stepped in when a child is being overly aggressive or has taken my son's toy and won't return it. Only once did I have a woman get mad at me for disciplining her child I told her what happened and I said if you were watching your child and disciplining her I wouldn't have to. She shut right up. I do try to give the other parent a full chance to respond to their child's actions but will step in if I need to. This being said I don't step in every time a child pushes, hits or takes my son's toy as I DO want him to learn how to stand up for himself.Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01042908629478655725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2047945885380439301.post-48643579403042645852010-05-19T22:51:29.206-04:002010-05-19T22:51:29.206-04:00My vision isn't so good, I have big problems s...My vision isn't so good, I have big problems seeing fine lines. And after stints working in the office of a daycare service and in classrooms... I have no restraint. If a kid needs telling off and the parent is ignoring it, I tell first and worry about opinions later. Bad luck to them. If they don't agree with my discipline they don't need to waste their time visiting with my children, do they? Nobody is forcing them to spend time with me!Allisonhttp://makebakesisters.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2047945885380439301.post-73473234578441052532010-05-19T13:18:25.154-04:002010-05-19T13:18:25.154-04:00Nope,I've crossed the fine line many times. I&...Nope,I've crossed the fine line many times. I've learned if I have to "parent" the other kid to keep from my kids being victimized then so be it. Usually the "out the lunch" parent thanks me since most times the kids will listen to any adult but their own mother(we all know this selective hearing trait). I give the parent one chance to step in but if their kid continues I'll take over. I'm not gonna play nice if her kid won't, that's my motto. If its a continueing problem, then we decline future invites and "blacklist" them ;)K.W.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12786998530994711844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2047945885380439301.post-76934260707040301612010-05-19T13:05:18.399-04:002010-05-19T13:05:18.399-04:00I feel for you! It hasn't happened often, but ...I feel for you! It hasn't happened often, but it sucks when it does! Now that my kids are older, they often ask, "Why do they get to do that and we don't?" I would definitely be unavailable for future playdates and if the mom ever asks why, I'd be honest and tell her my children didn't enjoy themselves. If she's a friend, we should be able to be honest and if she decides that she no longer doesn't want to be a friend because of honesty, then she's not a friend we need anyway. Man, I've lived with my brutally honest hubby for too long, I'm harsh! LOLRaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03076217953884307082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2047945885380439301.post-38939161884468893512010-05-19T12:58:06.677-04:002010-05-19T12:58:06.677-04:00ugh, what a nightmare!!ugh, what a nightmare!!Meghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12946198643472487747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2047945885380439301.post-41690920743470324952010-05-19T12:16:59.436-04:002010-05-19T12:16:59.436-04:00I ran daycare for 5 years...with my own to girls i...I ran daycare for 5 years...with my own to girls in the mix. I got to be the "parent" and scolding and benching just comes natural to me. The kids no right and wrong and there are consequences. Now I would have for sure spoke up to the mom in your situation. I'm sorry but my kids come above any friendship and if my friends don't like me simply telling their kids to stop or what they did was unacceptable, when obviously they are behaving incorrectly, then I don't need to be their friend. I'd want to know if my kid hit, or was horrible to another child, so I could deal with the situation.Trish H.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01088999485091428632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2047945885380439301.post-8761249250117570982010-05-19T12:11:48.230-04:002010-05-19T12:11:48.230-04:00i have 3 kids, oldest 13 in 3 weeks, and we have N...i have 3 kids, oldest 13 in 3 weeks, and we have NEVER done a "playdate." we went to visit someone once who had termed it a playdate to her son but the age difference meant i didn't consider it such.<br /><br />i've always felt bad that this just hasn't happened for them. thanks for making me feel like a good parent for my slacking off on this! because seriously, that's freaking nuts.<br /><br />some parents just don't get into trying to make their kids behave, and the kids can turn out well - amazingly - in spite of it. but they're really not fun to be around while they're turning their heads around figuring out who they're going to be eventually, without guidance.<br /><br />(thanks REEM for sending me here!)MamaBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10219560967391102167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2047945885380439301.post-74322427178844156932010-05-19T11:54:23.658-04:002010-05-19T11:54:23.658-04:00Oh my God! ...went over like shit in a punchbowl! ...Oh my God! ...went over like shit in a punchbowl! ha ha ha! I'm so stealing that :) Also, here's my opinion...I personally lack a spine. Lacking said spine I don't discipline anybody else's kids or ask them to. I however have a friend who I highly admire who would have shouted a big old "Hell no you didn't just hit my kid!" Then told the Mom where to go packed up her kids and left. I was on the recieveing end of that a few times...it made for some interesting fights, but I did come to realize she was right. It's not acceptable for somebody else's kids to do that to your kids. While hitting can be a pretty typical behavior, if the parent doesn't adress it...you should either ask them if they'd prefer to adress it or have you adress it. I mean, if the nuclear holocaust rolls around do you think little Lucifer will be sharing oxygen masks with your little angel? Love you for brightening my day all the time with your humorLeslie Burlesonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2047945885380439301.post-54907751637178875912010-05-19T09:43:10.292-04:002010-05-19T09:43:10.292-04:00I hate that! The fastest way to kill a good friend...I hate that! The fastest way to kill a good friendship is lack of parenting. There should be a rule, you get one chance to stop your demon child after that I have the right to stop the kid:) Sounds good, but for now I just make sure to be unavailable for playdates....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2047945885380439301.post-36204710761050289432010-05-19T09:06:24.404-04:002010-05-19T09:06:24.404-04:00This post really hits home. I have been on several...This post really hits home. I have been on several playdates where the kids from the other mom act up and the other mom pretends she doesn't even notice. I mean come on. When it has come to them hitting my kid I ever so nice say, "No,No, we do not hit" when secretly I would love to do some hitting of my own...real mature i know, but when it comes to your children there are no rules there.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06086333908434910364noreply@blogger.com